Codependency is a term used to define a relationship in which one person (the taker) depends entirely on another person (the giver) to get through daily life. In a codependent relationship, the taker often struggles with substance abuse, and the giver feels the need to shelter and protect them. In many cases, the giver’s desire to feel like a caretaker overshadows the need to encourage healthy independence and set boundaries. Regardless of good intentions, codependency in a relationship can cause the taker to sink deeper and deeper into their addiction. In a situation like this, attending counseling can help break the cycle of codependency.
At Liberty Bay Recovery, we understand the codependent relationship that can exist between users and even loved ones and the detriment that these relationships have on long-term recovery goals. We have developed programs and services to treat those who suffer from substance use disorder and codependency. Find out how to recognize signs of codependency and get on the right track to living the life you want by calling (855) 607-8758.
Recognizing Signs of Codependency
Codependent relationships are not healthy, and one or both parties may further develop low self-esteem and a decreased feeling of self-worth. It is important to recognize the signs of a codependent relationship so you can take the necessary steps in ridding yourself of the one-sided situation or helping a friend or family member who may find themselves in a codependent situation.
Avoiding Conflict
A person in a codependent relationship will do everything they can to avoid upsetting or getting into a conflict with the taker in the relationship. The giver may feel like they have to beat around the bush or walk on eggshells to not disturb or upset the other person.
Constantly Checking In
The giver in a codependent relationship may feel the need to constantly check in with the taker. Along the same lines, the giver may feel unable to do anything without first asking for and receiving permission from the controlling one in the relationship.
Frequent Apologies
Another common sign of codependency is when the giver in the relationship frequently apologizes to the taker even if they did not do anything wrong. This can be seen after conflicts between the two where the giver apologizes to avoid further confrontation.
Doing Things They Would Not Usually Do
If you notice that somebody in an unhealthy relationship is doing things that they would not usually do to please the other person, they may very well be in a codependent relationship. This is another sign that generally takes place as a way for the giver to avoid confrontation.
Feeling Sorry
Feeling pity and sorrow toward the taker in a relationship is another sign of codependency. The giver puts their feelings on hold to please and avoid conflict with the other party. This often results in the giver feeling responsible for helping the other person even if there is no way for them to help.
Learn How to Recognize Signs of Codependency at Liberty Recovery Center
Codependent relationships can happen between two or more people and should be recognized by friends or family. When drugs or alcohol are involved, codependency can exacerbate the problem and even prevent users from receiving the drug treatment they need for the following types of substance use disorder:
At Liberty Bay Recovery Center, our experienced counselors and therapists work with family and loved ones in a family and group program to address codependency issues and start everyone involved on the road to recovery. Find out more about the evidence-based therapy options available at Liberty Bay Recovery Center by calling (855) 607-8758 or using the online form.
